For the most part I agree with this article. You can find the original article here: Not your parents' wedding: The new do's and don'ts for modern wedding guests. I will give my thoughts on each rule and you can read the original article too. I would love to see your thoughts in the comments!
The old rule: Thou shalt not steal the bride’s thunder by wearing white to a wedding — oh, and black’s out of the question, too.
My opinion: I didn’t realize wearing black was so frowned upon. Black can be worn and dressed up. Plus black can look really good if it's done correctly. But the golden rule is not to one up the bride. Wearing white is fine, just don't wear a wedding dress(duh!). I think if you wear a white dress and add some accessories to it you're fine. Also, don’t dress like a slut…I’ve seen it way too many times.
The old rule: Thou shalt not take photos on your smartphone, because … wait, what’s a smartphone?
My opinion: I can not emphasize enough on letting the photographer do their job and let THEM photograph the wedding. They did hire a photographer for a reason! And not just because I am a photographer. It has always bugged me. Follow the rules of the couple if they have specified them. If they haven’t then at least be respectful. You can read more about this on a previous blog question, Do you allow other to take photos while you are photographing the wedding/reception?
The old rule: Thou shalt send in your RSVP via snail mail.
My opinion: I was a little taken aback when I read this. If we are talking about before the 21st century then weren't invitations always sent in the mail and wasn't there always the little RSVP cards that came with the invitation for the guests to return to the couple? If that's the case then OF COURSE RSVP via snail mail because obviously that's how the couple want you to. Now, if we are talking about today's wedding couples then that's a different story. Nowadays wedding invites are sent out in the mail(still!), or by email. At least those are the only two ways I've ever been invited to a wedding. But yes, always be courteous and RSVP! RSVP in the way the couple requested.
The old rule: The bride and groom are expected to create a registry. And thou shalt not stray from the items on the list.
My opinion: Always always always stick with the registry the couple made. They made it for a reason. You can not go wrong with their registry....or money. Money is always good. Since a lot of couples already live together they may already have a lot of the main stuff.
The old rule: Thou shalt respectfully participate in all wedding traditions, including the throwing of the bridal bouquet.
My opinion: Don't be a party pooper! The bride is doing a bouquet toss because she wants her single girl friends to participate. I know it may be embarrassing but just humor the bride and do it!
The old rule: Thou shalt attend every second of the wedding ceremony, which will most likely be in a religious setting. Then, you can attend the party.
My opinion: I understand there are reasons you may not be able to attend the ceremony since it's earlier in the day. Even if you think it may be boring, go! The couple invited you for a reason. This has always bothered me when it's a younger couple and all the friends show up to the reception but are nowhere to be seen at the ceremony. Don't just come for the party. You were invited to their special day and that includes the ceremony. Just be respectful.
The old rule: Thou shalt consider bringing a plus one if and only if the invitation makes it clear that a person other than you is being invited.
My opinion: Typically the invitation will be addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Jane Doe if married. If single it will say, Ms. Jane Doe & Guest. Only bring a friend, boyfriend, or girlfriend if it says & guest. If you are comfortable enough with asking about bringing a guest feel free to ask. Just don’t assume it’s okay and bring whoever you want unless it's clear.
The etiquette for every wedding is going to be different. Typically if you know the couple well enough you will know what to do if there is something you question. Of course you can always ask the bride or groom but try not to bug them.
Don't forget to let me your thoughts in the comments!